Posts Tagged ‘spiritual acceptance’

As you read this, humanity is undergoing a seemingly hidden, yet blatantly obvious spiritual evolution. This evolution involves finalizing our core healing. We are finishing out processing old traumas and judgments so that we can become unlimited and unconditionally loving. This means that you are personally evolving by processing your own past experiences of pain. You are healing your deepest traumas and subsequent judgments—all the pain that has held you back, until nothing can hold you back any more.

The key to your healing process is to understand that you came to this life to overcome experiences that severely limited you exactly so that you could become completely unlimited. You were born to become responsibly powerful and fully loving—unconditionally so that you are infinitely free. That is the process you are currently going through.

You are freeing yourself from limitation so that you can know its opposite through and through, at the deepest soul-experience level. You are rescuing yourself from your human conditioning (something I explain in detail in my book, Love is Free) so that you will never be put down again. Human conditioning is the systematic way that we have all been trained to put ourselves and others down through unworthiness, and it lies at the bottom of our most painful ordeals.

For example, right now I am overcoming the traumatic experience of feeling ostracized and undervalued in my past—dramatically and repeatedly so (I’m sure you can relate!). By acknowledging the truth that I have experienced this deep pain, I fully see how it has pushed me to limit myself in life in so many ways. By facing my human pain, I am able to see its lesson—to stop limiting myself. I am able to overcome this pain and realize its opposite—that I unconditionally belong in an eternally loving universe as a sacred aspect of GodSource. I can never truly be ostracized or undervalued because I am always one with the holiness of everyone and everything. I always have been.

One crucial aid to overcoming trauma is acceptance. Acceptance means that we let go of trying to blame others for our pain and instead simply focus on our own. Of course, it’s understandably easy to get paralyzed by what others have done to you, especially when no purpose for such cruelty seems apparent. But feeling acceptance means that you recognize with full compassion that all of us came here to overcome for a great purpose—to fully embody unlimited, unconditional love from the inside out—and through our pain we have been helping each other to do this. We are all one in beneficent LOVE after all.

Recently, I experienced a very personal breakthrough involving acceptance, after which I was able to heal pain from two key relationships. I had outgrown these relationships several years ago when I grew spiritually in my life, yet I had always hoped we would meet in mutual understanding on the other side of change. In fact, I assumed these people wanted healing and progress forward in our relationship with the same zealous optimism that I did. They did not. And that’s what I was able to finally see and accept. They wanted to remain as things had been and keep the dynamic we had known—especially in its fractured state, and in realizing this I was able to let my rosy expectations go. I was able to let these beautiful people go from what I wanted from them and simply heal on my own. With this understanding, my healing was instantaneous. What’s more, I stopped interfering in their healing process, and I was able to love them as I hadn’t been before.

Healing pain means ending the fight over how you think people should be and letting the chips fall where they may. This is true surrender of control, and once you let go in this way—once you feel a full sense of loss, then FREEDOM, then PEACE, you open yourself up to receive. I speak from experience. Last month, I surrendered all control over one gigantic and painfully unattainable dream. I let it go completely and even threw out all papers related to it. A few days later, I received a call that made my dream come true.

I know your dreams will come true too—every last precious one of them. I know you will overcome your darkest trials and seize their opposite—your dearest wishes come to glorious fruition. I know you will realize your magnificent brilliance and your all-accepting LOVE—your undying desire for harmony for all. Just keep going through your courageous process. We will rejoice together at the after-party.

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Last week, I was helping at the front desk of our children’s school, when my past came back to haunt me. A former friend came walking into the lobby, when I least expected to see her. Now this was someone I had once befriended with open arms, only to feel subsequently wounded by. And, interestingly enough, my intuition had warned me that she was going to teach me a very important lesson.

But until now, I hadn’t been able to pinpoint what that was. That day at school, with nowhere to hide, I put my finger on it. The lesson was acceptance.

Although I’d had such high hopes for this friendship, it turned out to be a brief one. When things ended with more drama than I’m used to, I found myself feeling mistreated and publicly misjudged, all by someone I was still getting to know. But one year later, I see that from the beginning, I’d harbored expectations that could never be fulfilled. As a pleaser, I’d given way too much of myself and expected similar giving in return. My disappointment led to feeling hurt, when I could have been discerning instead. Most of all, from the start I had assumed this person was who she is not.

In order to see this, I have had to put my judgment aside. I have had to say to this friend in my heart, “I expected things from you that just don’t resonate with who you are. You tried to show me yourself all along, but I didn’t see you. Now I am willing to see you, and I can accept your unique gifts. Most of all, I thank you for the growth you have given me.” Doing this has enabled me to let go of being right, and finally I no longer feel wronged.

Taking this lesson to heart, I see that every one of us does things a certain way, but it’s not the “right” way. It’s just ours. So often in life, we want specific actions from others, and we get disappointed when they behave differently than we hoped. But what we have overlooked are the things that they do provide, generously and willingly. We have forgotten to appreciate them and their special talents that are so different from our own. When we remove judgment, we can accept how amazing everyone is.

Of course, it’s important to be discerning about the energy that we allow around us, but we never have to judge it. When we refrain from judgment, we see that everyone can be a spiritual teacher on our path.

And by this I mean that we are all serving each other life lessons on silver platters. We are handing out engraved invitations to change our limiting beliefs. If we can make ourselves open to receive these lessons, we realize just how life-changing they are. We appreciate the bearers of this growth.

One of the most healing things that we can do while here is to accept each other exactly as we are. The beauty of life is to let life live and allow it to surprise with magic we never imagined. And ultimately, as with everything, acceptance is about unconditional love. We must stop expecting love from others and then judge them when they don’t deliver it. Expect love from yourself instead, because you are the love you seek. And this is who you have always been on your profound journey home.

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