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Life is a mirror, and we learn from the reflections that catch our gaze. The trick is to distinguish between what is ours and what is not. Some of what I see in another is not them. It is my own reflection. Others may see their issues reflected in me, but it is their stuff, not mine. Knowing how to identify what’s what is life changing. Even the process of discernment teaches immensely. We learn not to take on what isn’t ours and to own what is, and we become stronger in asserting our truth.

This lesson was recently delivered to me by our five year old son, Alex. He came to me crying because another child had called him mean. Now Alex had been kind to the other child, but had not done what was asked of him – to give away a favorite toy. In being called mean for this, Alex felt hurt and misunderstood, and I saw much of myself in his eyes.

I told him something to this effect, “Don’t listen to what others tell you, if you know that it’s not true. You know who you are, so be strong in yourself. Don’t let another person get you upset or make you feel like you have to defend yourself, because you know that you were kind.”

My son took the lesson to heart and bounded away happily. And in presenting me with this situation, he taught me something I’ve been trying to learn all my life. I have often reacted to what others say as though it’s the absolute truth, when I know very well that it is not. It is their reflection, not mine.

The legend of the Oracle at Delphi advises us to “Know thyself,” and this is the key to each spiritual journey. To get to know our true selves in this human experience requires digging deep rather than listening to how others define us. It means coming to a place where we can say, “I know who I am without the need for approval or validation.” It is fully believing in your true self – your non ego self, so that you get to live your life with integrity and the high standards of your loving soul.

In the past, I have not been strong in myself. I have shown a slightly different face to different people in order to please them. I have hoped that they will like me better, but ultimately this serves no one.

We don’t have to please anyone, and when we live with authenticity and integrity, we honor everyone. We become strong in ourselves, regardless of external circumstances. We shine with all of our magnificent colors blazing strong, unafraid of being judged or misunderstood, because we know who we are.

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