Archive for the ‘Let Go’ Category


During these times of great transformation, we are being called to feel everything we haven’t allowed ourselves to feel before. We are being asked to feel the emotions that we have denied and shunned deep inside. And this is because feeling allows us to heal our emotional wounds.

You see, as we go through life, we tend to store painful emotions in the body. This pain remains lodged within, unable to be healed. In order to dislodge it, we must feel it in the healthiest way possible. When we do, pain moves through us and can be released. We become free of the wounds we have buried.

Empathy helps us with this. When we empathize with ourselves or another, we validate what is being felt. We accept emotions with love, and this enables us to feel them and then let them go. This is how we stop the madness of suffering.

And that is why the best way to support others is to allow them to learn the lessons they came here to experience. This means standing by someone as they endure their difficulties but not interfering, yet indeed holding their hand through life. We must give others the space and freedom to be human and to feel what they came here to feel. We must experience life deeply instead of avoiding, fixing, or judging all that we go through.

We are here to feel things that we can only experience while living a human life. We are meant to learn from our emotional adventures and assist one another in doing this. That is how we experience the growth that our souls’ earnestly desire.

Allow yourself to feel what life brings up in you so that you can fully experience it. You don’t have to react to these experiences or hold on to them – or let them rule you in any way. You simply have to feel them. And once you do, you can let them go because they’re no longer in the present moment. They don’t have to stick around and define beautiful you.

You are here to love, to cry, to laugh, and to feel moved with every fiber of your being, without having to judge any of it. You are here to feel all the nuances of experience, utterly and completely, and take this wisdom with you forever. This is what allows you to gain precious experience. This is how you allow your gorgeous soul to grow.

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Forgiveness is letting go with love. It is an act of liberation amidst our human struggles – amidst the things we came here to learn. So many of us are facing especially painful challenges right now because we are evolving towards greater love. We are being pushed through situations and relationships that are asking us to forgive and thereby release all that is not love. For only then can we rise to meet our new reality – our ascending earth.

So often, we need to forgive ourselves the most for how we’ve handled life’s difficulties. This helps us to forgive others for their human-ness as well. Compassion and self-compassion are entwined with the ability to forgive.

For myself, when I am feeling hurt by another, it helps to write down their perspective until I am truly standing in their shoes. It helps to recognize that we just see life so differently from each other. If I become aware of individual needs, fears, and motivations, I can get to a place of saying, “I understand, and I release you.”

Of course, sometimes one may never understand. But then we remember that the heart always does. My heart often reminds me of this. When I finally forgive, I remember that I planned to work through certain issues in this life, and my loved ones have enabled my growth. They have reflecting my issues back to me. They are pushing me to face what I wanted to learn. Over time, I will feel grateful for what they have taught me. What I have gained is to grow stronger with love.

Forgiveness is breaking free. It is letting go of our pain so that we can be healthy again. When we forgive someone, we release them, and this allows us to heal our own wounds, for surely we have suffered enough. When we set people free, we too become liberated. And then we learn to accept each other exactly as we are.

But, how do we forgive those who truly mistreat us? By loving ourselves too much to let their poison hurt us any longer. Forgiveness is always a gift to the self, otherwise we are holding onto toxic emotions that only harm us. When someone mistreats us, they do not love themselves. It is that simple.

Of course, forgiveness never means going back to be treated this way again. We let the other person go completely from our thoughts with love, and no longer give them our energy. We soar once again with our health and freedom restored, essential rights we had sold far too hastily.

To reach for the lantern of forgiveness can seem humanly impossible. Here we find ourselves in pain and in the dark, and it feels so much easier to resist. But, if we let go of the disease of feeling wronged, and leap towards what is being offered, the dark becomes illuminated with love. Love is what this leap of faith requires, and then we remember that love is who we are. This is who we have always been, and to forgive is to embrace ourselves again.

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