Today, I’d like to talk about the emotional suffering that so many of us have been grappling with of late. Right now, the human experience is asking each of us to grow through our deepest personal issues because we are spiritually evolving. As such, we are feeling long buried pain so that we can shift our beliefs. Our emotions allow us to see the limiting beliefs that we’ve been holding so that we can begin to heal them. When we do, we experience profound spiritual growth.
In my own life, this transformation has not come easily. Despite my supportive loved ones, some self-inflicted misery has left me feeling utterly alone, with no one to help me but myself. But that is the point, because only I can help myself. Only I can provide the love that my soul yearns for by accepting myself completely.
Acceptance is what allows us to grow, and to grow is why we’re here. When I give myself the love that I’ve been missing, I end my suffering. I transform myself at the core.
Emotional suffering means acting separately from love. It withholds love from ourselves by believing in its lack.
So often, we try to find this love outside of ourselves rather than recognizing the divine within. Our suffering worsens when we try to resolve things by justifying, explaining, or defending ourselves instead of opening our hearts to heal.
But who can blame us? Suffering has been taught to us as a means of control. It is caused by the hierarchy we’ve been raised to revere. We have been trained to value the injustice of superiority and to hold onto our egos so tightly, all to keep domination going. In fact, we fight to maintain separation instead of recognizing our eternal light.
Suffering is this resistance, and physical pain demonstrates it so well. Amidst my own physical pain in life, I have noticed that when I fear it and fight it, the worsens dramatically. When I hold onto the injustice of my pain, my body tightens with suffering. Yet, when I simply accept what is happening without attachment, the pain immediately begins to lessen. I can feel my energy become unblocked and begin to move more freely. Then, I simply have pain, but I no longer suffer. See, if we can feel what we feel without judging it, we experience it fully and then allow it to pass on by. By doing so, we dramatically heal.
As the title of this post implies, humor can help us to do this. It can lighten the seriousness of human suffering and replace it with an awareness that is cathartic. But of course, in the midst of deep emotional suffering, such lightheartedness can seem impossible. At some point as humans, we inevitably find ourselves saying, “God, please take away this pain because I can’t bear it any longer.” And this is the valley of the shadow before spiritual rebirth.
Fittingly enough, the cartoon exclamation “Sufferin’ Succotash” comes from “Suffering Savior,” and those words could not be more appropriate. The heart-wrenching story of the ultimate savior Jesus shows us how to overcome our suffering. And I believe this is exactly what we’re here to do.
We are each going through personal resurrections of our own right now, and in order to relieve our suffering, we must act with the love that we already are. We must stop forsaking ourselves and humanity with judgment and recognize our own divinity, thereby accepting our true selves at last.
It can be quite an adjustment to realize that we don’t have to suffer or feel guilty for being here, and that we don’t ever have to earn love. My greatest wish for each of us is to remember this and the sublime perfection we are. As I’ve done this on my own journey, I have found myself shedding tears of joy for monumental growth. I am grateful for this dramatic, human opportunity and the metamorphosis of my burgeoning soul.
Dear ones, yes sometimes while on this journey we call life it seems
as though we are all alone. Please try to remember that it is our
journey not shared with another being…it is ours alone. It is this way not to make us suffer but to help remind us that we first have to love our selves before we can move any farther on this path called life. Suffering is not real!! It is what the human mind does to control us. There are two books that may help one on this journey each may help to understand the more about how our mind “plays” with the real person. They are “FALLING INTO GRACE” by Adyashanti and “THE UNTETHERED SOUL” by Michael A. Singer. While each of us is alone on our journeys we need not be lonely. Every other human being is on this same journey.
I agree James, and I love the way you say “Suffering is not real!!” But boy does it feel that way in the moment! I think the word forsaken says it all, and we forsake ourselves often in this human world.
Most of all, I feel so proud of those who choose to address their buried pain instead of denying it. This is the courage of the spiritual warrior, and you are one for sure.
This is just so beautiful you two! Courage is a word I keep playing with in my head, it takes so much courage to face this stuff. A significant release for me came through a brilliant combination of Bhuddist teachings, meditation and really being willing to be open to and one with A Course In Miracles which is so perfectly challenging to inbibe!
Thanks so much for being here Spence. Ah, courage. Sometimes I get astounded by how how courageous we all are. I think about the courage it took for us to be willing to be born as human beings, vulnerable, with no knowledge of our divinity, willing to face very tough things on this earth plane. To me, we are each so incredibly courageous!
So good to have you here Spence. Thanks for all your thoughtful comments that share the spiritual so beautifully!